How I Stand On My Trauma

Published on 24 August 2025 at 08:11

Facing My Past

If you’ve read my book Healed by the Hurt, then you know I experienced sexual abuse. Like so many others in this world, that trauma created deep confusion in my mind. It violated my trust instantly. It tucked me into a shell for years. It made me bitter. It made me angry. It made me stop respecting myself.

The Cycle of Destruction

I began walking down a destructive path—woman after woman, searching for something that wasn’t there. Over time, I became disgusted with myself. The worst part was knowing exactly what I was doing but still feeling like I had no control. It was as if I stood outside my body, trapped in cement, while some spirit held my shoulders and forced me to just watch.

Even in marriage, caught up in infidelity, I knew I didn’t want to hurt my wife. Deep down, I wanted real love. I wanted to be loved deeply supported, validated, congratulated, and cared for. But I never believed I could have that for myself.

Calling Out to God

Everything began to change when I finally started to understand who God was. When I cried out for help, God answered.

Now I simply serve because I’m grateful that my life has changed. I live each day as stress-free as I possibly can.

Choosing Peace Daily

  • If someone at work is rude, I send them good energy instead of matching their negativity.

  • Just the other week, a rock busted my window while I was mowing the grass. I looked at it, processed it, and kept mowing. No stress.

  • Sometimes my account goes negative. Sometimes I don’t feel well. Sometimes I get irritated or feel overweight. Sometimes I fail my wife or kids. Sometimes I even think maybe this earth would be better off without me…

But every single time, I choose to believe it’s all okay.

It’s an active choice. No trauma can hold me down anymore. When I asked God for help, my mind shifted. Now, every day, I work toward peace and happiness.

Faith Plus Action

Prayer without action is just words. If you want something different, you have to move differently.

Encouragement for You

I write this week’s blog to encourage you to stand on your traumas. Don’t let them stand on you. We are all so much more than what we’ve been through. We are light beings, created to spread love in this world.

Yes, we’ve all been hurt. And many of us believe it’s the hand we were dealt, that nothing can change, or that others just had a head start. But that’s not the truth.

I Believe in You

I believe in you. I believe in life being so beautiful. I believe there is more than enough success and winning for us all. There is no need to be so against ourselves or against each other. When we choose to stand on our traumas, we rise higher together.

The Choice Is Yours

You do have a choice.

Make your choice count.
Stand on your traumas—every single day.

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